Jessica Elshaarawy

Letters to Jessica

Dearest Mum, 

You were the type of person that was approachable and would always listen. There are so many good things about you which is why everyone loved and still loves you, but most of all misses you. The people that miss you the most are my sister and I. 

When my sister and I found out you were suffering from melanoma we were devastated, crying in a hospital waiting room knowing this was the end. Luckily, we found this website that can help us to research some of the ways to reassure this is unlikely to happen as often. There are so many things that can be done to save people from missing someone else.  

Thank you 
Your Aisha 

Mummy, 

You were my best friend. You talked to me and you made me laugh.  

You left me when I was only four, and although your memory is fading I miss my mummy.  

You made delicious birthday cakes.  

I love you, 
Zahra 

My dear daughter,

I had you for 40 years but that is not long enough. I miss you! You were my guide through my parenting, you directed my healthcare, you gave me two delightful presents. Every day I miss you.

Your daughters miss you more. Aisha only had you for 10 years and Zahra for such a short time – just four years. They love you. They miss you terribly.

Aisha and Zahra treasure their memories of you. They talk about being in the car with you, short trips to school or longer trips to visit friends, and laughing.  You could make the most mundane objects live an hilarious existence. You found the ridiculous in the simplest moments. And the rest of us have similar memories of your humour, sometimes played out on us. Now those moments are hollow and silent.

You are a mother, my daughter. You are a sister and sister-in-law, an aunt. You are a granddaughter, a niece, a cousin, a friend, a nurse.  You are creative and artistic and caring. You brought happiness to so many. We all miss you.

And you went so suddenly! We barely had time to say our goodbyes. COVID restrictions made it more difficult: entry to the hospital was limited, beloved family couldn’t cross borders.

There was an omen five years ago when a small spot changed and grew on your back. It was quickly removed and the diagnoses said it was only a stage 1 melanoma. The margins were clear. It seemed insignificant now it was removed. What a relief.

The next signs, we know now, were four years later when you felt endless tiredness. Then a month later when gastric symptoms began and headaches were more frequent we didn’t, even you didn’t, realise this was all related.

So when you had trouble talking fluently at work you came home and went to bed. The treatment you sought for the gastric wasn’t helpful. We had plans to look further but now your decline was sudden and you became unresponsive. The ambulance took you to emergency where a brain scan revealed tumours – 22 and some were bleeding.

In ICU you were kept alive and soon they found more tumours in your respiratory system. Tests identified them as melanomas and connected them to the other tumours. There was no way back.  We sat with you, we talked to you, we stayed with you day and night.

Before you left us we celebrated your birthday – 40 years! Aisha and Zahra painted your nails and plaited ribbons into your hair.  You were radiant.

Every day we miss you. It is not easy but you live in our hearts – forever.

Your proud mother,  
Margaret.

In memory - Jessica Elshaarawy
In memory - Jessica Elshaarawy
In memory - Jessica Elshaarawy
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Privacy Policy

Australian Melanoma Research Foundation (AMRF) respects and is committed to protecting the privacy of the people whose personal information it collects. We collect personal information about individuals who are employed by us, our donors, our volunteers, other supporters, allied associations, consultants and service providers.

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The type of personal information AMRF usually collects and holds includes names, addresses, telephone numbers, email addresses, donation date, reason for donation, merchandise orders and other information such as health related information pertaining to AMRF research and program delivery. This information may be collected in person, via our website on the secure payment gateway, as well as other sources.

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We may also use information to ask for support and to keep people informed about the ways in which our donors and supporters help us to make a difference to raise funds for research, awareness and early detection programs.  People have the right to opt out of any communications from AMRF.  This will not stop them receiving receipts and other transactional communications as required by law.

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If people become aware of any inaccuracy in the personal information, we hold about themselves, they are encouraged to contact AMRF so we can update any personal information we hold.

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Where it is lawful and practicable, we will allow individuals to deal with us on an anonymous basis. For example, if we receive a telephone enquiry, we will not require that the enquirer gives us their name, although depending on the nature of the enquiry, we may not be able to answer it unless they do.

We can also accept gifts and other forms of support anonymously. However, provisions contained in taxation legislation require AMRF to collect the name of the donor if the donor requires a tax-deductible receipt.

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AMRF
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We take your privacy concerns seriously. Where you express any concerns that we have interfered with your privacy, we will respond to let you know who will be handling your matter and when you can expect a further response. We may request additional details from you regarding your concerns and may need to engage or consult with other parties in order to investigate and deal with your issue. We will keep records of your request and any resolution.

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